The Better Half 2


1 Samuel 25:14, ‘But one of the young men told Abigail, Nabal’s wife, saying, Behold, David sent messengers out of the wilderness to salute our master; and he railed on them’.

Majority of us watch Africa Magic. And, if we don’t we must have seen a couple of Nollywood movies. So, a very nice and respectful girl gets married and suddenly becomes Madam of the house. Shouting on the gateman and mistreating the help. Exactly! That scenario.

As a Christian wife, this would not, cannot and should not be you. Still taking a cue from Abigail. Have you considered what might have happened if the servant couldn’t talk to his madam? Not only just as a wife now, but as a leader, your subordinates should be able to approach you. Especially when it is for your own benefit.

In Verse 17, see what the servant had the guts to say, ‘Now therefore know and consider what thou wilt do; for evil is determined against our master, and against all his household: for he is such a son of Belial, that a man cannot speak to him’.

I can almost hear the ‘ifoti’ some madams would have given such a servant who had the guts to say such. But that’s why Abigail was a woman set apart by God. She didn’t react the way people in the world might have. She reacted in accordance with the Spirit of God. She was a wise woman.

The Bible says, wisdom is the principal thing, therefore get wisdom, but in all thy getting, get understanding (Proverbs 4:7). But Verse 3 already tells us that she was a woman of good understanding. Therefore, not only did she have understanding, she also had wisdom.

Many of us lack wisdom, much less understanding. Wisdom is not the kind of sense that tortoise is always using in the folktales we were told. At all! Wisdom can only be gotten at one place and that is the presence of God.

By the way, the presence of God is not the church. The Presence of God is wherever you choose to be in communion with God. It’s not a place, it’s a state of mind.

Today’s lesson: Don’t act in such a high and mighty way that your domestic staff become afraid to approach you and act wisely.