1 Samuel 25: 17, ‘Now therefore know and consider what thou wilt do; for evil is determined against our master, and against all his household: for he is such a son of Belial, that a man cannot speak to him.
Remember how much you studied while in school? Not because you hadn’t attended the classes, but because you just hadn’t gotten requisite understanding from the explanation given in class. And, even if you were a genius and understood all they had said, oft times, you still had to pick up the book and refresh your memory, become more familiar with it until finally, you could recall it form memory.
It’s almost the same way in our relationships. We can’t say we are in a relationship with someone and not know what they are capable of.
I know a lot of people that would rather feign ignorance to a negative character or attribute staring them right in the face. God didn’t make us women for nothing.
We are to be help mates. If the man you intend to marry or have married is going off the Christian wagon, it is your job to help steer him in the right direction again. How can you do this? The first thing is to know the man very well. Know what he is capable of. Not just what he tells you about himself, but look at the little things. Discern his character. Just like Abigail was a woman of good understanding, you should also be a woman of good understanding and understand your husband. There’s no point being the smartest woman alive but you have no idea what kind of a man your husband is.
Abigail knew her husband and that’s why she could react and rectify the situation quickly. There are lot of judgment calls that we need to make as women, we can’t make these decisions on our own limited thinking. We need the help of the Holy Spirit.