The Husband’s Love


Ephesians 5: 25 – ‘Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her’.

Now nobody is saying that husbands need to give up their lives for their wives, Jesus already did that once and for all. But in doing that He made a very bold statement on what love is and how love is to be shown.

Take Saul for example, when he realized who exactly he had been warring against all this time, he was very disappointed in himself, why? Because once he came into the knowledge of who Christ is, all he could see was the love Christ had for us, nothing more. That someone who was hated by those He had come to save would still see the agenda of salvation to the end, despite all the bad treatment.

Your wife should never have to continually ask you if you love her. It is information you should willing offer. Not only in your words, in your actions, in your thoughts, in every single thing. You don’t have to ask Jesus if He loves you, you know He loves you. Nothing you do can separate you from His love.

Nothing your wife does should be able to separate her from your love. I was thinking in my room this morning how I might do something really annoying to my future husband and instead of him to actually get angry, he totally overlooks it. Not because I’m quite cute and he can’t get angry at me, but because he truly understands what the Bible meant in Ephesians 5: 25. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t address the issue, he does. But he does so according to the Word’s standards and not the world’s standards.

He knows Christ will not take my small misbehaviour and create a mountain out of it. He knows about patience in love and forgiveness and unconditional love. You see, this is the only way marriages will fulfil purpose. Marriage is not just for procreation. It is an earthly institution that is designed to perfectly embody the meaning of God’s love.

Oh that we will actually experience these kinds of marriages. And don’t tell me it is impossible, because with God nothing is impossible. By ourselves, there is no doubt as to its impossibility. But with God, impossibility is nothing. I pray God gives us the grace to truly believe this.