The Sex Talk


Lately I’ve been at places where people openly and unashamedly talk about sex. Now, when I say people, I am not talking about married folk. I am talking about single boys and girls like me, hence; Premarital Sex.

More recently, on a WhatsApp group I’m on, someone had written an article advocating for prostitution as a legitimate business. Different people voiced their different opinions but the author was having none of it and was quick to mention that if it were premarital sex they had talked about, everything would be fine, because in the author’s words, ‘If your basis for labelling it wrong is the Bible, I hope you maintain the same energy level when you see people talk about premarital sex, you all just rationalise it and overlook it’.

Sadly, the comment couldn’t be closer to the truth. Lots of Christian young people these days who sing in the choir, who play the drums, who arrange the seats or who just simply come to listen to the message do not see anything wrong with premarital sex. In our minds, this is one commandment that does not affect us in the 21st century.

Another conversation, I somewhat overhead. A girl was asking a friend who he would rather have a threesome with, a boy or a girl? This people are Christians. Then the guy says he is celibate. What does that even mean? Meanwhile when young people say they are celibate it simply means they are just taking some time off of having sex.

Yes, the Bible says in Romans 8: 38 – 39 that nothing shall be able to separate us from the love of God. But, in Isaiah 59: 2, ‘It’s your sins that have cut you off from God. Because of your sins, he has turned away and will not listen anymore’. Notice the difference, although God never stops loving us, God seriously hates the sin even though He loves us.

God knew the struggles we were going to have with the opposite sex, that’s why the Bible in 1 Corinthians 9: 27 tells us to bring our bodies under subjection. And if you cannot do this, 1 Corinthians 7: 9 says, ‘But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust’.

A word is enough for the wise.


  1. So Enny, in those conversations do you speak up or mind your business, especially when you know these people are supposedly ‘christains’.

    • The Bible says that wisdom is profitable to direct. Speaking up may do more harm than good in some instances while minding your business may also do more harm than good in certain circumstances. essentially, we have to listen out for the Holy Spirit’s prompt and heed it.